Understanding Conflict, Together

1 of 3 / Notice

A moment to understand

Date Which pattern did I notice in myself?Choose a patternCriticismContemptDefensivenessStonewallingNot sure yet What happened?

Describe one specific moment rather than your partner's character.

2 of 3 / Understand

Underneath my reaction

What was I really feeling? What did I notice in my body? What did I need or want my partner to understand?

3 of 3 / Practice

One thing to try

What could I say or do differently next time? If I need a pause, how will I ask and plan to return? What would I like to bring to our next session?